Let talk about forgiveness

Have you been told that you need to forgive the person who hurt you in order to heal?

Well I’m here to tell you that you don’t. Forgiveness is not required for healing unless it serves your healing process.

Why do we so often hear that you need to forgive someone to move on?

In fact, telling people that they need to forgive the person who hurt them in order to move on is an unfair and unhealthy mindset.

The saying “forgive and forget” allows the person to continue hurting you. When we experience an injury, it often results in a scar. This scar serves the purpose of reminding you not to touch the metaphorical (or actual) hot stove again.

You don’t actually need to forgive someone to heal. Unless it serves you and your healing process.

Explore what forgiveness means to you and only forgive something or someone if it is going to move you forward on your healing journey.

What is actually helpful?

We need to process the thoughts and feelings associated to the event and to the person, in our own safe space. Whether it be anger, hurt, frustration, sadness, etc.

You don’t owe anyone anything.

Too often, we move into people pleasing, and think that we owe others forgiveness so they can move in.

Do what you need to do to heal and move through.